What is a Stalking Order? How is it Different From a Domestic Violence Protective Order?

So, what is a Stalking Order in the State of Oregon, and how is it different from states version of the Domestic Violence Protective Order?

Well, here is the full packet (almost full, it is missing the firearms surrender forms, but you get the gist): https://www.courts.oregon.gov/forms/Documents/CivilStalkingFullPacket.pdf

A Domestic Violence Protective Order, or a DVPO, in some states require that the evidence more likely than not and the requirements in order to grant such an order are MUCH higher.

A Stalking Order, in the State of Oregon, on the other hand only requires that you are able to prove at a minimum of TWO times within the last TWO years that they did something that could have reasonably SCARED you. That's it. The bar to prove how you felt about something that they did is MUCH lower.

A Stalking Order is also permanent, it lasts for a lifetime, and a judge will not even consider reviewing it for modifications for at least 3 to 5 years after it has been in effect unless there is due reason to do so. But still, not likely.

A Stalking Order does not have nearly any of the same requirements that a DVPO or a Restraining Order does, all it does is asks for the other person to stop communicating with you... leave you alone... and not hire a Private Investigator to follow you around and make your life hell. Or tell your abusive ex-husband where to find you, essentially calling a hit out on you.

All of which seems pretty fucking self explanatory, right? Pretty fucking simple. Well, Stalking Orders exist for a reason my friend. In most cases these orders will not effect jobs or anything about your life. It will come up on a background check, but it just serves as a document that tells you to leave this other person alone. However, it will limit your ability to ever operate or own a firearm again.

If you work in law enforcement, this could be career ending - I was notified of this late last week.

Now, I haven't shared all of the gruesome details about what occurred in 2020 just yet, time for that will come, but for now... let's just say... I almost didn't make it out of 2020 alive. It was a HORRIBLE year. I now understand why people say that Sexual Assault can nearly be a death sentence for some... and that is why I am so motivated to spread awareness... because, Lord, the dying of my hair black was the ONLY public sign I gave that I was in turmoil. I thought I could handle it, and boy, was I wrong.

Do I want to go through that again? You bet your ass I do not! So, I did something today, to hopefully essentially get the Stalking Order or a version of it approved and granted, but to also prevent me from falling into the depths of hell again.

We shall see what comes of this, and if nothing, then we will continue with the Stalking Order. But the ball is no longer in my court, and I am giving him a free out to potentially protect his career, while also potentially saving my life. AS LONG AS HE AGREES TO STAY FAR THE HELL AWAY FROM ME, and never communicate with me again.

If he doesn't take it, then Lord give me strength - we will go to trial.

P.S., If you're wondering why I share this type of information... it is not to talk about drama, or gossip, or anything else... it is simply to document my feelings, and my thoughts in a way that still leaves me CREDIBLE. During the Alaska DVPO I was told that I could not be found credible, want to know why? Because I kept everything to myself (but yet, I was the one also accused of running around the ENTIRE DEPARTMENT OF AST and telling my personal information to everyone). What a fucking joke. That is the LAST time that I will do that. It is funny actually, the smallest of things will have such a lifelong impact on a survivors life in such the oddest of ways.

Now, that is NOT why the DVPO was denied. That was simply a comment that was made, and has stuck with me ever since. It was denied because, "a Trooper could never commit a crime like that," (I'm sorry, but do I need to name drop here? Lol!) and that I "must have been confused" about what happened in July of 2020 since I had previously given consent in September of 2019, so consent was obviously implied. Excuse me while I laugh.

Consent is REQUIRED EVERY SINGLE TIME. Consent is not a one and done type of deal. Even married couples could rape each other. F-Y-MOTHERFUCKING-I.

Anyways, until next time on this soapbox. Thanks for coming. Au Avoir.